Contributed by Noreen Sumpter, Personal Life Coach
You can make one of these kinds of resolutions, but I am going to request that as one of my readers you go deeper. If you do, you can achieve all of these resolutions and more, from a place of who you are being, not what you are doing.
Here are some of the usual resolutions: spend time with family; get fit, lose weight and fight the battle of the bulge;quit smoking; get present and enjoy life; quit drinking; get out of debt; learn something new; have fun.
Would you be willing to throw out making a resolution this year and make a commitment? Would you be willing to be honest with yourself? This year would you be willing to try on BEING YOU, being who you are completely?
Being you is one of the most attractive, FULFILLING presents that you could ever give and be—one where you make a choice from a place of your word and love of yourself. How many of you would be willing to do that? This resolution will be coming from your being—your human beingness, not like the resolutions which come from doingness.
What would your life look like if you truly made a commitment to just be yourself this year? Suppose you made a resolution to really get real with yourself. It would mean that you would have to get down to the root of you. You could take on being vulnerable and courageous and having a life that you live, not a life that you made up to look good and please others, but the life that is truly yours. It would mean looking at the things that you love about yourself. As for the things that you do not love about yourself, you would be committed to learn to accept them for all that they are and all that they are not.
Falling in love with you is the best resolution for 2012
So could you imagine for a moment a part of your body that you are always working on and are just being okay with it? For me it was the band of fat that lives around my stomach. But it is just your stomach. When you are ready to release it, you just do. You do not have to make it wrong. I have learned to love that band of fat around my stomach because I have discovered the more I detest or hate it, the more it grows. What we resist, persists. So can you imagine for one second falling in love with your band of fat or those legs or thighs or that nose or whatever it is that you say you hate. What if you just accepted it as a part of you and learned to honor it.
So what if this year you gave yourself the gift of finding out who you really are and bring that you everywhere you went, instead of hiding out and not being yourself—being who you really are and not who you think that you are supposed to be. Can you imagine the peace you would have knowing what pressure and stress you could release from your life instead of trying to be someone or something different from your true self? What if you just focused on being yourself completely? What if you focused on the contributions that you make from just being you? What does it feel like to be known, heard and understood on a real open level? When you are being you, there is no longer any noise. There is just you being present in this moment and time.
Being yourself takes courage and courage is wholeheartedly just being you. It’s making a commitment to just being yourself, letting go of all the false conversations that disempower you and make you feel bad about yourself. In the world of this kind of commitment, you live in the now and there is nothing wrong. You are enough. You don’t have to look good, you can just look. There are no right people, there are just people. You don’t have to be smart. Whatever you say is the right thing. You don’t have to please people or be anything other than who you are. Being yourself is liberating. At first it can be uncomfortable, but once you distinguish that there is no right way or wrong way for you to be, life begins to unfold in a very exciting and amazing way, the worries and stress disappear. Life happens.
In 2012 be honest with yourself. Tell the truth to yourself. Be insightful. Your self-worth is not based on what you do or how you look. Your self-worth is personal. Having external definitions of who you are keep you trapped and rob you of your peace of mind, freedom and full self- expression. It robs you of the God given opportunity of your creative source. When you get straight and honest with yourself, you are giving yourself an opportunity to know yourself for who you really are. Then you can share that with everyone and people will begin to see you as the human that you are. Your life then becomes fuller. Your life will have purpose.
This year 2012, go to work on being who you really are. I would say practice but to be honest, your life is not a test drive, you are not practicing life. So this is why I say go to work on being honest with yourself. A lot of people might think that you are crazy. Don’t worry about it. You know you are not crazy. You are having fun with you, showing up being who you really are, bringing you to the party. When you bring you to the party of life, you will have more fun than you can imagine. You will realize that you are the party. You bring the party and the party comes to you. You will never ever again sit around waiting for any party to happen because you will bring the party in you. You will never have to censor your thoughts, dreams, and ideas. You will be present. You will be aware of the life that surges through your body. Your confidence will bloom. Your self-esteem will expand. You will be and become attractive—strangers will feel your energy and want to know you. Your friends will notice a difference in your way of being. You will notice a difference in your being. You will learn that there is no doing anything right. You will just let go and just be. How yummy could your life look like?
- Be honest, speak your truth.
- Fall in love with you.
- When your integrity or your promises go out, put that back in.
- Forgive yourself and others.
- Get present—live in the moment.
- You deserve to live the expression of you.
- You are amazing.
- You’re perfect inside your imperfections.
- Be courageous with your choices and decisions.
- Appreciate and integrate gratitude in your life.
If you would like help being you and want find out more about being yourself completely without the extraneous internal conversations. Contact me. I would love to speak with you. I am offering all the Soulmates a 40% of coupon for a Get Acquainted Call. Write to Tanya@NoreenSumpterCoach.com to set up your one-on-one call with me. HAPPY NEW YEAR! (Offer expires 1/15/2012)
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