Contributed by Mario H.
I’ve been unemployed for over a year. While this can be depressing and upsetting at times, I realized very early on that how I approached my situation was the most important thing. So, I created what I call the Mario rules that have helped me remain optimistic and upbeat during this difficult time.
Wake up early. When I first lost my job, I would sleep in because I was excited by the novelty of having “time off” to do so. But after a while, this wore off and was very quickly replaced with getting down on myself for wasting away my days. So I decided that I had a new job: I was in the business of finding work for myself. With this perspective, I started waking up at 7:30 am and approached each day as I did when I was going to work. This made me feel more energetic and eager to do what I needed to in order to find employment.
Daily intentions. I put together a list of actions I planned to accomplish each day. Coupled with getting up early, this list helps keep me in action and makes me feel more productive. At the end of the day I review how I did and update my list accordingly.
Exercise. When I was employed one of the areas I slacked off on was getting enough exercise. Now, as part of my daily plan, I go for long, brisk walks and I have put together a simple exercise regimen including squats, lunges, sit-ups, and weights. In addition to preventing me from feeling sluggish, I am also getting fit which has been a goal of mine for some time.
Purge. I decided to go through everything in my home and either sold or donated anything that I no longer felt I needed. Not only did I make some money in the process, I noticed that focusing my attention on this activity made me feel less anxious. Also, keeping my environment clean and free of clutter makes me feel better about myself.
Network/Socialize. Every week I participate in different (free) networking events that I learn about through friends and Meetup. Networking helps me make connections and obtain referrals that I follow-up as part of my job search. In addition, I plan at least one fun, inexpensive activity with a friend. Socializing helps me stay connected with my friends, ensures that I get out of the house and reminds me to laugh and have fun.
Education. I have taken tons of free classes through the unemployment office. They provided a list of outside sources as well as classes offered by the labor department. At each event, I make sure to speak with other attendees, exchange job search ideas and find out about more free educational services.
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