Contributed by Noreen Sumpter, Personal Life Coach


Are you sexy, the cat’s meow, all that and a bag of chips? If you cannot answer this question openly, you might have an issue.  If you think the statement is presumptuous, then you might have an issue.  If you agree with this statement, you might have an issue with others.  But, do you care?  I think I am all that and a bag of chips.  I went out with a male friend the other night.  When I walked through the door, he said to me, “ You look sexy tonight.”  I replied with, “I am sexy all the time.” He asked me who said that.  I replied I did.  Then he said, “You’re not sexy until I say you are.”  I laughed and added, “I am like a self-cleaning oven and I self-validate.”   We laughed. I’m sure for different reasons.  I, for my ability to self-validate, and he for God only knows what.  What I do know is you can be as sexy as you choose.

Are you sexy, hot, the cat’s meow, all that and a bag of chips? Take a minute to think about that question and let it infuse your mind. Then answer this. Who do you think you are?  This question is not meant to be taken in a negative way with judgment. What I mean is: Who am I speaking to?  Who are you intuitively? Do you have the confidence to say it proudly?  Is who you are so clear you don’t even have to say anything? It is clear to everyone and gets reverberated back at you in life.

Did you ever experience a day when you’re being so sexy that you hear it whispered in the wind?  It’s just who you are in that moment.  You are the cat’s meow, all that and a bag of chips. You know who you are.

So, who I think I am can be translated as: I am a woman, I am black, I am tall, I am English, I am a Confidence and self-esteem coach, daughter of Mr. and Ms. Johnson, 5’8”.  Who you are has nothing to do with any of those statistics.  That is not the kind of “who” you are that I am even remotely interested in. However, that is not to say that those descriptions are not interesting.  They are the kinds of facts that you share with people when you first meet them.  It is somewhat boring and mundane, not the meat and potatoes of whom you are.

The kind of “who” you think you are that I am interested in, is an inside job. Here are some questions to support you in this quest of seeing who you are.

  • What do you love about your life?
  • What are you passionate about?
  • What are you interested in?
  • What do you want to be remembered for?
  • What are you proud of?
  • What do people say they love about you?
  • What contribution have you made and to whom?
  • What’s one thing that no one knows about you that you wish they did?
  • What are you willing to share about yourself?
  • What are you afraid of?
  • What’s the most courageous thing that you have ever done for another?

Next week we will talk about what these answers mean to you and how you can answer them everyday in all of your actions.


Do you have a question for Nourishing Nibbles, please send it to:


Noreen Sumpter, Personal Life Coach: works with High Achievers who feel trapped in their private life.  They lack personal confidence and self-esteem. By helping them clear mental clutter and dissolve limiting beliefs, they can take deliberate steps, own their voice, speak their truth and have the freedom to live life their way.  “Live Life Your Way” 

   “Live Life Your Way”

To make an appointment with me, please call 718-834-9450 or e-mail

Subscribe to my weekly Newsletter, join me on Facebook and Twitter