Contributed by Noreen Sumpter, Personal Life Coach
Mistakes are a part of life and learning. Get over it! The reality is everyone makes mistakes. Mistakes are a fact of life, so why do we spend so much time beating ourselves up when we mess up? We mess up, in particular, when we are learning or doing a new project or learning a new skill. Messing up is a prime opportunity for further learning and expanding your confidence and self-esteem. We learn that the said ‘mess-up’ does not work and we actually never have to worry about making that same mess-up again. We learn what works and what does not.
Successful people are open to messing up—they know that they are bound to make mistakes anyway, so they are willing to risk even if they make mistakes.
Some of our best works and lessons are learned from our most difficult times. However, the moment we stop trashing ourselves and making ourselves wrong, we are able to reflect, see what we have learned and have victory over our mistakes. Many people have made mistakes that have cost them big time. Later they say that they would not trade the experience for anything in the world because of what they learned from what was first considered a mistake.
In order to triumph over your mistakes here are 5 steps to help make this easier:
- Learn to accept the reality that mistakes are part of everyone’s life — even yours. As the human you are, you will always make a mistake.
- Process the mistake without making yourself wrong and trashing yourself with thoughts like, I am such an idiot or How could I be so dumb? Give yourself positive feedback. Admit you made a mistake and be willing to learn from it.
- Take responsibility for your mistake. Take time for self-reflection and consider your role. What have you learned about the situation? How can you view this mistake as a lesson that will benefit you in the future?
- Look at the magnitude of the mistake. Did you give yourself time to finish the project, or did you scramble to get it done at the last minute and neglect important parts because of time limitations? How did you use your time? Did you have all the pertinent information? Did you use all the available resources and people? How will you clean up this mess and what can you put in place so that it does not happen in the future?
- Create a sense of ownership in order to prevent the mistakes from recurring. Share your insights with others. Share with them what you have learned from this experience and how it will transform your behavior henceforth.
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