Contributed by Noreen Sumpter, Personal Life Coach
Take an action step to complete the pieces of your life that are not working. By completing, I mean letting go of all the drama that you have surrounding the thing you are choosing to not face. Do not make it wrong or make yourself wrong, release it and let it be. No more complaining. Whatever you choose to face, you have to take action, even risk not being right or not being liked.
When you have an area of life that is not working, your unconscious voice directs you to hide behind clichés, myths and points of view—allowing self-denial to be in the driver’s seat. Hello Baby!
Common clichés and distractions that lead us to cover up an area of our life that is not working include:
- It’s none of my business.
- Don’t air your dirty laundry with me.
- One drink before bed is fine, granny did it for years.
- One more cigarette and I’ll quit tomorrow, what can one do?
- I hate this job but it pays the bills.
- He does not mean to ___ me.
- It’s just this one time, what can it hurt?
- I’m sure they’ll pay me back like they said they would.
- Credit card debt is normal everybody has some.
- Someone else will do it. It’s not my job anyway.
- People like us __________.
- Those kinds of people ____________.
A good percentage of the time we make up reasons why things are the way they are, instead of accepting that “denial” is making up reasons to avoid facing the truth. One reason creates more reasons on top of more reasons, giving us a mountain of reasons that we automatically believe to be real. By not facing the problem in the first place, we fail to acknowledge the situation quickly. If we noticed it earlier, we could have experienced less pain to begin with and it could possibly have been easier to resolve.
Sometimes the reason why something is not working the way you want it to is a bunch of bubble wrap.
Consider this scenario. Your car breaks down on the highway and immediately you think, “The car would not have broken down on the highway if I had taken it to the shop sooner.” Then you discover that your AAA coverage had expired just a day or so before so now there’s a tow truck fee and repair costs. This is a perfect example of what could have been avoided had problems with the car been handled the first time they came up. It would have been cheaper, saved time and the highway situation might never have even happened.
As 2013 approaches, ask yourself: Are willing to take steps to get past your state of denial? Are you willing to face your situation sooner than later instead of hiding out in denial? Real power exists when you face life head on, even when you do not feel like it.
What are you willing to get past in 2013? We invite you to share your ideas in the comment box below.
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Noreen Sumpter, Personal Life Coach: works with High Achievers who feel trapped in their private life. They lack personal confidence and self-esteem. By helping them clear mental clutter and dissolve limiting beliefs, th ey can take deliberate steps, own their voice, speak their truth and have the freedom to live life their way.
Call 718-834-9450 or e-mail noreen@noreensumptercoach.com
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