Contributed by Noreen Sumpter, Personal Life Coach


Vulnerability is much easier when you have a large dose of self-love.

There was a time in my life when I felt that being vulnerable was a liability. I would rather have eaten a mouth full of glass than be vulnerable because I did not have the courage to share myself and my emotions.  Emoting was something that I just did not do.  I was closed off, always in control and on the defensive looking out for the enemy.  But the truth was my heart ached and longed for peace—the peace within the area of my relationship with myself and my heart. I was emotionally bankrupt and could not give of myself, something that too painful because it called for me to share my heart.

Being in a space of vulnerability is a place where many of my clients have difficulty and often get confronted by the very thing they say they desire. When they receive what they say they desire, doubts and fears arise causing them to start self-sabotaging the very thing that was desired.

Vulnerability takes courage and a large dose of self-love.  When you are self-loving, a sense of openness appears and you are able to be vulnerable and share yourself without judgment.

I choose to be vulnerable.  Why you might ask? Why on earth would I do that?  Well, I do it to honor myself and accept all parts of myself: the good and the bad that makes me different.   I choose to love myself.   I choose to be with my fears, (false evidence appearing as real), be with my vulnerabilities.

In the face of fear and doubt, when I am in relationships, I have allowed my vulnerabilities to be just that, vulnerabilities.  My love and relating comes from a place of non-judgment. I can be free to love and recreate my love newly every day.  This happens because I am fully accepting of myself every moment and every day.  If I am not accepting myself, I cannot be accepting of another. Choosing vulnerability gives me a sense of freedom.

It is true for me, I have found that vulnerabilities show up when I’m experiencing closeness.  What I share with you, I give to you courageously and totally uncensored.  I desire and want, with every fiber of my being (at a primal level), to be loved, adored and accepted. I know that during every moment of my life, it is important for me to experience these feelings. I have respect for myself.  I am able be honest and share myself.  Respect is at the root of my happiness, where my power and creativity are honored and I, in turn, recognize yours.

I know that I am not different from anyone of my readers.  We all at some point want to feel loved and adored, where we feel heard, understood and gotten by the people we care about.  We all want to be okay and feel absolutely perfect with ourselves, knowing that we are wonderful just the way we are. I know I do.  Do you?

These are the feelings that I am enjoying and I want to keep a hold of.  It calls me to be open, trusting and vulnerable.  It calls me to be honest with my feelings and to ask questions about the things that I desire within the relationship.

I am a confidence and self-esteem expert and I am always under a microscope: looking at and cleaning up my messes, looking at what can and will destroy confidence.  I am open to be vulnerable with you so that you can experience something for yourself.  Each one teaches one.  So pass on this message.

1.    Vulnerability is easier attached to self-love.

2.    When you love yourself, love every part of you even your fat thighs.

3.    Vulnerability is a life-long experience.

4.    Vulnerability has many amazing rewards that are immeasurable.

5.    When you’re vulnerable and authentic with yourself, life shows up to meet you.

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Noreen Sumpter, Personal Life Coach works with High Achievers who feel trapped in their private life.  They lack personal confidence and self-esteem. By helping them clear mental clutter and dissolve limiting beliefs, they can take deliberate steps, own their voice, speak their truth and have the freedom to live life their way.  “Live Life Your Way” 

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