Contributed by Noreen Sumpter, Personal Life Coach
Are you fed up of wanting things that do not seem to materialize? You want someone to make your dreams come true. You are mad and frustrated at times. You resent strangers and even people on television who seem to have it all. In spite of this, you cannot seem to get your butt off the couch to make something happen. You’re so hypnotized by the television that you cannot even think, let alone dream. Some of you might even think that you are way too old to dream anymore. I heard two women speaking and one asked the other, “Do you sing anymore?” Her friend looked away as if searching for a distant memory, “No, I don’t sing anymore. You know after you get to 40 you’re washed up and nobody wants to hear you.” That is pretty sad. It is sad when you give up something that gives you pleasure because you believe you are too old. If that were true, what would we have to look forward to?
Age has got nothing to do with dreaming. Think of retired people who have started new businesses, gone back to school, or have gotten married; I am sure they were not thinking that they were too old. They were just being in the moment and being happy.
Well, relax and get a grip on yourself. All that whining and droning on is not going to make any difference. What you have to do is drop whatever your conversation is about yourself– whether it’s you’re lazy, heavy, sad, disappointed, rejected—I know that it is difficult to drag any part of our anatomy when we are feeling all of the above, but bootie up and make something happen. Many of the above statements are judgments and limiting beliefs that you make up about yourselves and believe to be real. These judgments and beliefs block our creative juices and we end up feeling stuck and bad about ourselves.
Listen, no one wants to hear whining, most of all, you don’t need to hear yourself whining. Are you the kind of person who complains when you meet a friend in the street? It does not have to be a close friend; it can be just a street neighbor. You know that person who lives up the street who you see now and then, the person who you tell all your woes, anguish, sadness, wretchedness and straight up misery to. My God, nobody wants to listen to your misery. Please give everyone a break! No one wants to hear about your not making any money, your lack of relationships, no social life, how old you are, etc. It is depressing and upsetting and most of all you are reminding people of their own issues. Please stop, quit, listen to yourself, shut up and change directions.
Life is a wonderful playground filled with all kinds of adventures. So there! Now that you know that, can you believe that life is a playground full of adventure? What adventures do you want? Are you willing to go after them?
So, you might not have any idea about what you want. You might just say, “I want to be happy.” All the people on planet earth want to be happy. I would say just be happy. Happiness is a natural expression. A baby laying in its stroller on a nice warm sunny day, wearing a clean diaper and having a full tummy, does not have a thought about being happy. The baby does not look up at its parents and say, “Mother dear, I just want to be happy. If only I could walk and talk to you, I would be ever so happy.” NOT. The baby is just happy being a baby. You can be, do and have anything you want. So why are you whimpering about happiness? People, just be happy.
Do you know that the universe has every kind of adventure that your mind could ever create? It’s up to us to create something. Do it. If you don’t like it you can change directions and do something else. That is the beauty of the universe; it will not make you wrong. You make you wrong. You add the guilt and feel guilty. It is important for you to create the adventure or seek out the adventure that you want.
Did you ever stop to think that not knowing what you want could be a great place to start, because not knowing gives you the freedom to create from nothing. Think about it. You get an opportunity to just start something. Anything, but something. Just starting something can lift your energy and get you moving. It does not have to be anything that others think is special, what is important is that you think it is important. If you think it is important to you, then go for it. It just has to be something that feels good to your soul. Many people know what a good feeling is. So if you do something and it generates a good feeling then keep doing it.
However, please note. Not all things that create good feelings are healthy, i.e., illegal drugs might create a good feeling but they are not good for you and you will end up in a not so good condition or place. Alcohol might fill you with good feelings in the beginning. However, it is not to be used as a substitute for happiness. I am talking about things that make you feel soulfully good and happy. Soulfully happy for me is a feeling that brings tears of joy to my eyes and my heart feels full. Or other times, I get this fresh air feeling to my heart. Hey, you know your soulfully good and happy feeling and if you don’t, start looking for it.
Once you have found your soulfully happy feeling, because you have connected with the thing that you want to create, what do you think could happen in your life? Instead of having those non-productive conversations where you are miserable, start having conversations that are filled with energy and excitement. Instead of being an energy drainer, you now become a person who is glowing and sharing—people start sharing your energy. You feel excited about what it is you are doing and people want to share and spend time with you. You start to look attractive and people are now attracted to you. They start to enjoy your company. You start to enjoy your own company. It is fascinating to see this happen.
Once you have a clear decision, you get to have real use of the adventure playground. You get to play the games and jump on all the equipment the universe has to offer. You get to go to the ball. You get to have that dream of whatever it is you want.
I am not going to put any ideas in your head because your ideas are unique to you. Just start something.
What are you interested in starting? We invite you to comment in the box below.
Noreen Sumpter, Personal Life Coach works with High Achievers who feel trapped in their private life. They lack personal confidence and self-esteem. By helping them clear mental clutter and dissolve limiting beliefs, they can take deliberate steps, own their voice, speak their truth and have the freedom to live life their way. “Live Life Your Way”
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